Shut your relationship windows and doors
Relationships are vulnerable to infidelity because they (couples) rarely like the idea of putting rules or boundaries on their partner. Instead they have an attitude of “live and let live” which sounds cool when said in the moment, but never serves the relationship long term.
Savannah Ellis – Infidelity Recovery Expert
Prevention is better than the cure in all regards. Think about it. How many people go in for Flu shots? Buy protection insurance on their gadgets? Need life insurance? Home insurance? Health Insurance? But how many people care to prevent disaster on their relationships?
Think about what a broken relationship does to a person. The average divorce has the man, put on the street (if he has children or if the x had a great lawyer), and can take a major hit on your health, both physically and mentally. The family unit is now divided, with all members feeling extraordinary amounts of stress. We won’t even talk about the loss of the bank balance.
The point is that too many couples fear the conversation about protecting their relationships. It totally blows my mind. There are various reasons as to why people do not have this conversation. For example, some personalities like to “play the field” so there is no way that they will have the conversation of securing relationship restrictions. Unless of course they are Narcissistic and the partner is typically Histrionic, and the game of deception begins! The most common reason is that people do not wish to “talk directly” and say how they feel, so instead they will fight and argue about all sorts of other stuff and never really talk about things that matter.
So…what can you do to protect your relationship?
I’m not trying to pitch you anything here. I just want you to reflect upon what you could do differently to protect your relationship. Once you have thought about what you could do differently, go and talk about that with your partner. Be the change you want to see.
Start a ripple…
Have a great weekend, and feel free to ask your questions below.
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