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Reboot Your Relationship Seminar – Fight for Connection


What can couples learn at the Reboot Your Relationship Seminar?

“What the heck is my partner thinking?” is a common refrain in romantic relationships, and with good reason. Every person is wired by God for love differently, with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people’s minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and rituals, making it possible to actually neurologically prime the brain for greater love and fewer conflicts.

Reboot Your Relationship is a Wired for Love insider’s guide and seminar to understanding your partner’s emotions, brain and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust. Synthesizing research findings on how and why love lasts drawn from the Bible, neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this seminar presents ten guiding principles that can improve any relationship. Again, this is not a religious experience but a spiritual one…where relationship is a transformational path and we show you how to “practice!”

Strengthen your relationship by:

Creating and maintaining a safe “couple bubble” (Safe Haven)
Using morning and evening rituals to stay connected
Learning to fight so that nobody loses
Becoming the expert on what makes your partner feel loved
By learning to use simple gestures and words, readers can learn to put out emotional fires and help their partners feel more safe and secure. The no-fault view of conflict in this Reboot Book and Seminar encourages readers and participants to move past a “warring brain” mentality and toward a more cooperative “loving brain” understanding of the relationship. This seminar and our book is essential reading for couples and others interested in understanding the complex dynamics at work behind love and trust in intimate relationships.

While there’s no doubt that love is an inexact science, if you can discover how you and your partner are wired differently, you can overcome your differences to create a lasting intimate connection. Learn more…

Listen here to get a snapshot of what you will learn in our full day FREE Reboot Your Relationship Seminar:


Joe Whitcomb, PsyDc, LMFT 


Reboot Your Relationship Seminar – Fight for Connection




Reboot Your Relationship Seminar – Fight for Connection

February 22nd, 2014


Ever meet that couple that’s been married for years that says proudly, “We never fight!” Um, yeah. That’s often (not always) a yellow flag for me. After I spend time with these folks it turns out that under their “polite” demeanor, they are afraid of the C word. While this couple can claim they have no baggage because they don’t fight, it’s more that they implicitly agreed to stuff the baggage they do have in the attic or the basement in service of keeping whatever connection they have in tact. This type of marriage is typically a bit stale or flat. Best buds and roomies.

It’s understandable why a lot of us behave like this, hold back, and avoid conflict since most of us grew up with very limited teaching around how to really do this conflict stuff.

But the truth is conflict is a critical skill to learn in a long-term partnership. Fighting is a must. I’m not talking about fists and aggression. I’m talking about learning how to fight well in a strong, loving way. When we do this, our love grows and deepens. We model to our kids how to stand up for themselves and respect themselves. We model self-loving boundaries. We learn this wild dance between self and other and how to really love someone. We learn tools that help us move closer to each other when we’d rather shut down or run away. Our relationship life expands as we re-pattern our nervous systems. And, on and on.

So, if you are up for learning more, we’ll dive into this terrain one week from today. Please come join the…

Here’s the email for more info and to

Cheers, Joe